Friday, July 07, 2017

Focus

When we're struck down and think that we've hit rock bottom, we always do this. We marinate and keep ourselves in the pits of hell and welcome the feeling of pain and misery even as we start our day. It feels right to feel sad and miserable, because in truth, we are in pain, and we want the rest of the world to feel it too. We want to be understood. We want to feel included. Sort of.

But that's the thing. The world doesn't run that way. Misery doesn't have company. You are in this on your own. And as much as you think your problem is the biggest or you are the saddest person in the room, there will be others whom have far bigger crisis and whom are less fortunate than you are.

Your problems will become minute, and insignificant if you could just take a moment and shift your attention to others. If there is one good thing in your life that you are thankful for, hold on to that. Keep that thought in mind. You will need it for one of those days. When your subconscious tries to pull you down again to that pit, instead of rolling around in it, try to brush it off. Focus on other things. More, important things. 

There's so much more to life than just relationships and being together with someone. As it was long before you were a WE, you've always just been a I. It's time to get to know yourself again, improve yourself and fall in love with you being you all over again. It is a process. It's not gonna be easy, but you will have to start somewhere. 

Leaving your comfort zone, and starting over is always a dread. We all know that. But, that is how you move forward. That is how you will learn how to stand up on your own two feet again. There will always be someone who will be there for you, even on your darkest days. All you need to do is ask. Ask for help. Ask for a listening ear. Perhaps a hug or a shoulder to cry on. You are never alone, remember that.

So, embrace the change. Shift your focus. You can do this.